Rich dad, Poor dad

Author: Robert T. Kiyosaki

My Rating: 4.6 / 5

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“Working hard for money is an old formula born in the day of cave man”

Go to school, get good grades, find a secured job, work hard, save money and retire – this has been the mantra of our life. But by following this mantra the middle class will remain as middle class only passing on the same cycle to the next generation. The reason for this (as the author puts it) is that we haven’t been thought financial intelligence in our schools i.e we haven’t been thought the art and science of making money. The author illustrates a few examples of how cash flow works and explains the differences between cash flows of poor, middle-class and rich people and thereby emphasizing why they are the way they are. It all comes down to how well we manage our asset columns. I would like to mention the highlights of this book.

Middle class/Poor vs Rich:

This difference comprises the core of the book. The author stresses on the fact how to make money work for you instead of working for money. He uses two terms viz. “Rat race” and “Fast track” predominantly throughout the book. The former refers to the mundane middle class habit of working hard at the job, paying bills and liabilities, saving in a conventional way not bothering to build on the asset column. In simplistic terms he defines asset as something which puts money in your pocket and liability as something which takes money out of your pocket. The latter refers to a smart habit which according to the author pushes people from middle class to the so called rich. It incorporates the idea of building our assets until our asset column alone is sufficient to meet our expenses with or without our day job. According to the author, assets are stocks, bonds, mutual funds, income generating real estate or anything that produces income, appreciates and has a ready market.

Playing safe vs Playing smart:

The author puts spotlight on the fact that many people never become rich because they show reluctance in taking risks and hence they make “safe investments“. But the problem with these investments is that they give very low returns. And of course the author acknowledges the fact that there is a far higher risk involved when you make investments which have the potential to milk higher returns but that is exactly where financial intelligence comes into picture. He further asserts that there is not a single rich person in this world who hasn’t lost money while experimenting. You lose, you learn from your mistakes, you learn new formulas and you invest again – this time more sophisticated. This is how smart people invest.

Controversial views:

The author contradicts the popular saying “Our home is our greatest asset“. Instead he views it as a liability unless you have generated an asset column which pays for the bank loan. A bigger house usually means higher expenses as we have to refurnish everything matching the requirements of it. What many people fail to consider is the property tax which will be incurred upon them. Also, we miss out on the opportunity to make other investments which would have grown faster in value simply because we have no money left to invest. Another controversial view is “Pay yourself first and others later“. Even at times when you realize that you will not have enough money left to pay bills, the author still asks you to pay yourself first. Our asset column should be far more important to us than anything else. He claims that it is a good money habit because when we pay ourselves first we get financially stronger and when we pay ourselves last, we let people like bosses, tax collectors, bill collectors and managers push us around all our lives. Though I wasn’t fully convinced with the author’s views personally, these insights gave a different approach to look at the same topic.

Who can buy this book ?

Anyone who has a fire in their belly to become rich. But, doesn’t that mean everyone ?? No, it doesn’t. There is a fine line between people who have the desire to become rich and people who take steps towards it. The author illustrates by using an example that it is strange to see people who give 10 percent of bill as a tip but are hesitant to give 5 percent of fee to a broker. This book definitely serves as a great inspiration to take action but isn’t alone sufficient. Personally, I would say it is a very good start for anyone who plans to invest.

Corporate Love Story: Part 1

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Three friends in a room. Two guys and one girl. They were boozing accompanied with gossips. They talked about things like office, movies, music bands and artists, childhood crushes and so on. After a while, one guy had to leave and so he bid farewell and left. That is when Giselle told Aryan about Bobby albeit a little hesitant. She couldn’t tell it in front of Nirmal as he and Bobby were best friends and she assumed that Nirmal would think of her as lunatic. Aryan was stupefied at what he heard. Giselle told him that she thinks that Bobby has a crush on her and that she is certain that she receives positive vibes from him. Aryan argued that it was impossible as he knew that Bobby was a bit of an eccentric person. He doesn’t socialise much, if at all with women and doesn’t give a damn about what they think about him. But Giselle was obstinate and so Aryan told her that he would observe Bobby from the following day. Bobby and Giselle knew each other since Aryan’s birthday treat he threw a couple of weeks ago. Aryan didn’t find anything unusual about Bobby since then or from the day after his sitting with Giselle and Nirmal. He would greet back and talk with Giselle as normally as he would do with any other person and Aryan knows that he wouldn’t even bother greeting Giselle if she herself didn’t approach him. A couple of days later Aryan and Giselle started accompanying each other for morning jogs during which Aryan told her the same. She thought maybe he was right but insisted that she wouldn’t want to miss the slightest chance. She told him that maybe Bobby wasn’t willing to express his feelings towards her and so she would encourage him indirectly by giving him vibes from her side until he gains the confidence to admit that he likes her. And thus, the story began.

Giselle(27) was 4 years elder to Bobby(23) and 5 years elder to Aryan(22). It wasn’t viable to even think of a committed relationship let alone marriage. But, Giselle wanted to live the moment. Every morning Aryan and Giselle would talk about the previous day events at the office during their jog. They jog (mostly walk) for around 2 hours daily except on Sundays when Giselle goes to church for prayer. During every jog, Aryan realises that her feelings towards Bobby are growing stronger and Giselle realises that Bobby indeed doesn’t feel anything about her. Giselle started making it evident to Bobby that she is interested in him. She started texting him regularly. She intentionally pairs up with him while playing Table Tennis in office and stares at him in such a way that even a kindergarten kid would understand. Aryan used to give her tips on what Bobby likes and doesn’t. She sometimes cooks dishes which Bobby likes and passes on them to him through Aryan. It was funny how Giselle initially felt that Bobby was the one who was interested in her and as time passed she became the one who was interested in him. What Giselle and Aryan never understood is that whether Bobby realised that they were vying to generate interest from his side. To understand the status quo, Aryan fabricated a story replacing Giselle’s name as Lovely and narrated it to Bobby. He changed everything in his story except certain facts like her age and religion. Bobby laughed out at Aryan saying that if someone of their age dates Lovely, people would mock at them teasing that they were dating an auntie. Aryan felt that Bobby was trying to convey the same message to Giselle and so he did convey it to her although a little reluctant initially. Giselle’s heart was broken when she heard that and Aryan could see that in her eyes. She was quiet for a while, cursed her age as it was an age where people get married and not an age where they hold crushes. Moreover, she felt that Bobby was easily a league or two above her in terms of physical appeal. Aryan felt bad for her but he couldn’t say anything at that moment.

Nirmal left the office several weeks before any of this happened which bought Aryan and Giselle much closer. They stay close to each other and so everyday they commute to office together. And slowly, after the air around Bobby has been cleared, Giselle and Aryan started talking about each other lives during their 2 hour jogs. She told Aryan about her previous love story with a guy named Jarvis who works in the same office and how they were supposed to get married and how they broke up. The more Aryan got to know about her the more he was convinced that she needed a better companion than the ones she ever had. During office hours, they used to sit at each other desks, jesting and bantering. Though they were now clearly aware of Bobby’s intentions Aryan still teases her with his name. They suddenly became very close spending almost 16 out of the 24 hours in a day with each other. This was their routine: wake up, go for a jog, travel to office, work, sit at each other desks, if not the carry the conversation through pings, travel back, text each other and sleep. Giselle was extremely fond of coffee and often adds a vanilla scoop on top of it. That’s her trademark recipe. Gradually she turned Aryan too into a coffee addict. Aryan enjoyed every minute being with her. He started playing Table Tennis too just to spend a little extra time with her. One day he had to go out of town to attend a marriage of one of his college friend. It was like a get together with his old classmates after almost an year. It was fun to meet them and he was having a good time and yet somewhere deep inside his heart he missed Giselle, he missed spending time with her. His friends read his conversations with Giselle violating the normal etiquette and poked fun at him. There were a lot of I love you’s in their texts which Aryan calmly dismissed as nothing serious. It was then he realised that it was actually something serious. When he came back to his city, he realised that he was in love with her. That weekend he was in a booze party with Bobby and Nirmal. He was texting with Giselle as usual and said “I love you”  in one of those texts to which Giselle promptly replied “I love you too”. Aryan then replied by texting “No Giselle, I mean it, I love you” and got a smiley as a response.

The day after during their jog Giselle asked him whether he was too high that night. Aryan said no and disclosed his feelings about her. Giselle was pleasantly surprised but shrugged it off by saying that maybe it was his illusion. Of late they have been spending too much time with each other and maybe he misinterpreted his feelings as love. But he was obdurate and expressed his desire of marrying her. She did acknowledge her love towards Aryan however, but given the age factor it didn’t seem pragmatic for her to think as far as marriage, she wasn’t even ready for a committed  relationship especially after how things panned out with Jarvis and she never really expected anything from Bobby. Aryan asked her four years of time to go abroad, study, come back, settle down and then marry her. Giselle just smiled at his thought and told him that there is a low probability of that happening in reality. Days moved on and Aryan was living the heyday of his love life. They tuned into songs loved by each other and imagined themselves in the background of the lyrics. He made her hug him while riding on a bike. On one occasion, Giselle invited him to her home, cooked chicken and mouth fed him herself. She wanted to be a perfect lover to Aryan as it was his first love. A few days later Aryan expressed that he wanted to kiss her and so the next day during the jog Giselle kissed him on the cheek. A few kisses on cheeks continued followed by smooches a couple of days later. Things started heating up. They did it everyday during jog and during office hours they used the elevator. Whenever Giselle’s mother was out of town, the romance hits next level. They got naked on several occasions except they never had sex. He sucked her boobs, she gave him a love bite, he fingered her, she gave him a hand job. She struggled to remove the marks of love bite from his neck. She tried using ice but in vain. She didn’t want people to observe that. Everyone in the office just pictured them to be as good friends. Giselle didn’t want to reveal anything as Jarvis was still working at the office and that would make things complicated. Aryan didn’t want to reveal anything because he felt that he wouldn’t receive support from anyone given the age gap. Irrespective of all of that, life was perfect. Aryan was happy that he was the one who finally filled the boots of Giselle’s perfect companion and imagined that everything was going to end well. Expect, it didn’t……………..

The mindset of Indian women….has to change

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Before I start to write anything, let me tell you that I am a feminist. I advocate for the equality of sexes. But I don’t think even if millions of people like me support for the cause, there isn’t going to be any significant change in the role women are going to play in the society. The figures from World Bank which shows the labour force participation rate of women in India exemplifies it. To oversimplify things, millennial women in India can be classified into 3 broad categories of which only set is productive.

1. The Conservative set:

They make up a huge chunk of the population. Their dreams are limited. Cultural backgrounds have forced them to draw boundaries to their goals. Their parents don’t focus on what their aspirations are. They are told to study well and restricted from activities like late night partying, fashion dressing and sometimes even speaking out their opinion raises eyebrows. Fingers are pointed towards them when they mingle too much with men. But if they start to believe that it is the way they are supposed to live they are making a catastrophic mistake. Before anything else, they need to dig into themselves and find out their lost ambition. They need to stop worrying about their mounting age, pressure from their parents to marry early, pressure to quit their jobs. They have an advantage, they have studied well, they have good grades. It is up for them how they are going to use it. Are they going to print their qualifications on their marriage cards or are they going to make an impact with it ? They can live independently and make money. One thing which they need to do is to start living their lives instead of others.

                 “I suppose I could have stayed home and baked cookies and had teas, but what I decided to do was to fulfill my profession which I entered”  – Hillary Clinton

2. The Vacuous Set:

Unlike the first set, they have the luxury of being born into liberal families. They don’t have any limitations or ceilings on what they want to achieve. But the problem is they never think of achieving something. They are tamed too much to act wild. They are content with what they have and never think of multiplying it. They need a guy who earns on one side and unconditionally loves them on the other. You might probably have imagined a few people while reading through these lines. But this isn’t their fault completely. They have a sense of insecurity. The similarity between them and the conservative set is that they pay too much attention to the people around them. All their time is invested in materialistic things like glamour, beauty, crappy movie gossips, mocking the first set of people(the conservative set) etc. They never invest in themselves which makes them vacuous and in specific cases it earns them tags like bimbos. One thing which they need to do is to start  pivoting their time onto productive things and challenge men in all aspects of life.

“Any girl can be glamorous. All you have to do is stand still and look stupid.” – Hedy Lamarr

3. The Rational Set:

These women are great adapters. Irrespective of the type of families they are born into, they capitalise on their status quo. They are rational minded and set up at least short term goals. These are usually the type of women who contribute the fair share instead of adhering to the fallacies that men are supposed to pay every time or that only men are supposed to save money. They aim high to the ranks of starting their own business or growing up through the corporate ladder or becoming a professor or sometimes even dedicating their lives to research. They don’t blame that society is inherently gender biased and sit back. They sense the rise of feminism and make full use of it. They know how to persuade people. Just like a majority of men, they are hungry to make a mark and make their voice be heard. They don’t let stereotypes dent their progresses. But the problem is they are very few in number and sometimes even these set of people become complacent.

             “If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman” – Margaret Tatcher

It all comes down to a simple choice for women in India today. Are they going to sit back and play they blame game or are they going to figure out a way around ? I am not telling that there aren’t any problems faced by women today. There is no moral encouragement. There are differences in wages paid, for example like the men and women cricket teams(although, I blame economics for that). They struggle to balance their lives between their conservative older generations and their liberal peers. But even all of these circumstances might make things a little difficult for them but never impossible. Things are changing for better. Look at how the United Nations is planning to elect their next leader or how Canadian PM Trudeau elected his cabinet. This expanding list also features female Indian entrepreneurs. To sum it up, if the mindset of women isn’t going to change, no government policy will ever help in bridging the gap between men and women in the labour force participation rate that I have mentioned in the intro.

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Apsara

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She felt like crying. She understood that tears would come out of her eyes within the next few seconds, so she swiftly walked towards the restroom. Restrooms are like one of the best friends for girls. They just watch you and give you support till you calm down, they don’t judge you or give you those free advices. Tears burst out uncontrollably and thoughts were running through her mind. Do you know that feeling when you have to pay for something without doing anything wrong ? That’s exactly how she was feeling. “How do I deal with it ?” has been the chronic question of her life.

Apsara is 26 years old, kind hearted and soft spoken. Right from her childhood she always tried to be a good girl and keep everyone happy. She was disciplined at school, studied well and never vexed her parents or teachers. Every time she looked at the mirror, she understood that something was wrong and disturbing. She asked her mother about it who casually used to fend it off by saying that she shouldn’t be worried. Days went on, she reached that age where we come to know about new things. Something was wrong again, she observed boys paying attention to other girls in the class where she felt left out. Since she was studious, she never waited late after school for regular gossips. In fact she hardly had friends besides her bench mates and that even added to it. She didn’t think too much because the society around her made her believe that if you study well and get a good job, you are destined to get a good partner. Moreover mingling too much with boys was considered bad.

After reaching college she could clearly differentiate between herself and her friends. She never participated in extra curricular activities like dancing, singing or skits. Why didn’t she ? She kept thinking. No one ever encouraged her to even try such things. Who would want to even see a girl like her performing on the stage. She felt sick. She was like a remote and cornered girl who talks with only two to three girls and that too just normal stuff, never intense. That has been the repeating pattern of her life. Just when things looked bleak, a guy said Hi and started talking with her. Ankit was a very sociable person, above average in terms of looks and her lab mate. He gossiped a lot with her and they became friends very quickly. They used to text regularly and she took care of all the lab assignments. She explained all the subjects to him during exams and thanks to him she made good friends and for the first time in her life she was really happy.

Was that feeling love? It is obviously but to what extent, Marriage? She felt very apprehensive. She can never tell him what she feels about him. Rejection is too big to swallow. He definitely doesn’t feel the same for her. How to change that? She decided to make it obvious without admitting it. She talked more than regular, started writing all his class assignments even without him asking it. Occasionally she used to buy him stuff like T-shirts, watches and accessories. Ankit knew this. He neither wanted to lose all that care shown by her nor feel that way about her. Which boy would ? Beauty is like a prerequisite factor when you have to love a girl. Did you ever see a guy chasing after a girl who isn’t good looking. There might be rare cases but just to give you an idea, Apsara’s looks were beyond repair. Facials and make up would only exacerbate it. One fine day during a casual talk he referred Apsara as his caring and lovable sister. That was a sting in her heart and calmly replied in a low voice “Well which boy doesn’t think of me as his sister“. Ankit didn’t want to acknowledge it and so hastily changed the topic. Her name sounded like an irony which meant beauty in Sanskrit.

She slowly faded out from Ankit, and he too never bothered much to talk with her expect during exams. All the other friends too distanced from her slowly and even she doesn’t know why. What was meant to be her heyday of elation turned out to be a temporary euphoria. She was badly hurt but not broken. She topped the college and landed in a prestigious MNC with a good starting salary. She worked hard, sometimes even did the work of others without complaint. Perhaps that was her innate quality or perhaps that was the only way she would get attention. Years passed, her parents created a matrimony profile for her and consulted their relatives. Nothing worked. Good education, thick salary, good family, her kind attitude, nothing mattered. All the requests she got on the matrimony website were of low education profiles and demanded hefty dowries. She felt upset because her parents were not that financially strong. What a burden she is being for them. One day she attended a wedding of one of her relatives. How much fun were they having, what wrong did her parents do for not deserving it? They asked to mingle people from the crowd to dance beside the groom and bride. Naturally, no one chose her. So, she was strangled between the questions posed by the elders about when was she planning to get married. Did they ask out of formality or sarcasm? It was too much of an emotion to handle. She felt like crying. She understood that tears would come out of her eyes within the next few seconds, so she swiftly walked towards the restroom.

Beauty is a bitch !! It masks people from realizing that everyone deserves love. Do you know that feeling when you have to pay for something without doing anything wrong ?

 

An Open Letter to United States

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There was a time, not long ago when I used to think that people in United States are super affluent who can buy anything their heart wishes for. Be it bungalows or luxury cars or fashion accessories, that there is absolutely nothing which can dodge your purchasing power. And despite all the spending you still have money left to wage wars and to donate charity organizations. Somewhere in the middle, I read the novel “The Street lawyer” by John Grisham and understood that like every country there are people extremely poor who can’t even afford a house even in US. But, even that I imagined to be as something of past rather than present. As I grew and had become more accessible to Internet, I understood that the country is deeply divided between the advantages which I had always imagined it to uphold and the problems which even India as a developing country doesn’t face. I intend to break this post into three paragraphs which I also believe are the current burning issues faced by your country.

Your Expenditures:

When I know that I have just the sufficient money either to buy a play station CD or to buy groceries for the upcoming month I would choose the latter. As a matter of fact any rational person would do that. But as a country why do you choose to spend money on the sustenance of 7000 odd nuclear war heads when the cold war has ended instead of subsidizing the tuition fee for graduates who struggle big time to clear back their loans. Why do you choose to operate 800 military bases around the world with tens of thousands of troops not in countries like Iraq or Afghanistan but in countries like Japan, South Korea and Western Europe instead of bringing down the market prices of medicines which are way too expensive than any other developed nation on the planet. How can we be strong from outside when we are crumbling from inside. How are we proving that capitalism and democracy are the efficient and ultimate ideals for the governance of any nation state ?

Your Foreign Policy:

Picture me as a person who owns dozens of advanced rifles. Now, imagine me bullying someone who wants to buy a shot gun arguing over him that he is damaging peace in the society. That is exactly how you appear to be like when you argue over Iran that it shouldn’t possess nuclear weapons. Now, that doesn’t mean I want Iran to hold nuclear weapons but I want every country on this planet to dismantle their arsenal (including my birth country India which hasn’t signed the non-proliferation treaty) so that no other country in this world would feel insecure (like Iran right now which is completely normal when the country which has overthrown their government is nuclear enabled) or find the necessity to build a bomb. You are the only country who can begin that change and it is not confined to this particular aspect. Countries will follow if you make a move towards energy efficiency and renewable energy or towards Internet freedom or any other progressive idea. Such vital is your leadership.

Your Political Attitude:

To the 50% of the people who do not vote in the elections: Politics is not like a luxury item in a mall where you get to choose either to pick it or not. Instead, it is a basic need like the food you eat or the clothes you wear daily. Your involvement could define the future history. To the 30% of the people who are either democratic or republican leaning: A political party is not a football club where you say Forever Blue or Forever Red. You may naturally have a predilection towards a party’s ideals. But how can you support the Democrats when national debt is mounting and smaller businesses are struggling to survive or the Republicans when the environment is degrading and gun violence has become rampant. Your ultimate decision should depend on the candidate and his leadership capability rather than his/her party affiliation. To the remaining 20% swing voters: The country is in your hands and it needs you more than ever !!

Conclusion:

You may be a country of 17 trillion dollar economy but you will have a scar on your prestige when you don’t address basic issues like maternity leaves which BTW is what I was referring to as a problem which even India doesn’t face in the introduction. Now to the big question, why am I even bothered about all this ? Because, when 2008 recession happened it is not just you who suffered but it is also us who lost jobs, incentives and privileges. India’s problems are India’s. Pakistan’s problems are Pakistan’s. But your problems are literally everyone’s. And the fact that your Debt-to-GDP ratio is at a dangerous 104% worries me that history might repeat itself. Made my point, I guess.

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The two sides of Karl Marx

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I wanted to write this post following a conversation I had with my parents. Today, education is a central part of an Indian middle class family. But the primary reason why parents want their children to study is not that they are going to do something productive with that knowledge but use it is a means of livelihood and earn thick salaries and thereby increase their status in the society. This is where Marx comes into picture with whom I completely agree on a few principles.

Marx talks about alienation of work by which he means that the connection between the work which we do and how that work is being used in real world is lost. When we do farming, we know that it will help us to survive. When we are sewing a cloth, we know that it will help us against the extreme weather. But, in modern days when we are analysing the market risks being a hedge fund manager or writing software for a surveillance company, we are unable to plainly see how that end result is interpreting our hard work and time. We are doing it because modern work has become increasingly specialized. The work which we do is to provide comforts and luxuries to the society but not the needs. As machines are replacing the jobs done by humans in every cycle of innovation, we really don’t have any other option.

Marx also talks about enjoying sufficient leisure time to which not only me but all of you reading this post would agree!! Frankly, I never wanted to confine myself to just one sphere of knowledge. I always try to experience new things, learn new domains of skills and build an opinion to myself on every burning issue in this world. But, it is really tough if not impossible to find time to do something like that considering the leisure time which we get. Imagine that we were born in the 19th century prior to industrial revolution. We would have time to farm in the morning, hunt and fish in the afternoon, paint and dance in the evenings or play music some other day, travel new places when the harvesting season ends, meet new people, learn new languages and the list simply goes on and on. But today if we find someone who works little and takes a lot of leisure or someone who doesn’t perform well in a specialized area, we discard them as lazy and unfit. Thus, chances are slim to lead a pre-industrial life in a digitized world.

But how much ever I try to admire Marx, the second side of his ideologies does not allow me to do so. Without privatization there is no competition and without competition there is no innovation. Hence, following Marxism the world would have been much passive than it is now. Perhaps this very blog which allows me to share and gather insights from a wider audience would not have been possible. But, it again comes down to the basic question: “What is our priority? ”  or more broadly “What is more important to us? “. Is it the connection which we find with our work we do and the leisure time which we spend or Is it the quality of life and the technology which makes us more comfortable. Balancing both of them in today’s world would be slightly less than a miracle. One thing is certain, the debate around this question is not going to stop, at least not in the near future and Marxism would continue being a complicated concept with neither complete support nor complete denial.

Today, when parents are forcing their children into specialized education they have to realize that jobs in 21st century are not the same they used to be. Work should be fun and has to be done with a sense of purpose rather than as an obligation for survival as it has become today which is a sad circumstance. Marx would have agreed with me !!

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Why porn should be banned in India ?

Well, I have seen a lot of reaction on social media against the decision to ban porn in India. But, I don’t find your reasons convincing enough. Here are my reasons why porn should be banned indeed.

A Naive Argument: People argued that ban on porn would have a negative impact on men especially that there would be a rise in the number of rapes and molestations against women. Let me argue something: If that was the scenario always, how did people in 1970’s and 1980’s possibly have maintained a lower crime rate against women than us. I mean there was no Internet and they had no chance of watching porn. So why weren’t they drastically assaultive towards women? Rural India was safe. Once the urbanization began, the chance of getting caught in a big metro has been reduced and that paved way for increase in all types of crime, not just rapes.
So, when you say that ban on porn is proportional to crime against women, you are not speaking out of logic, instead you are speaking out of lust. Our morality has nothing to do with the availability of videos on Internet. It simply doesn’t work that way.

A Better argument: A much better argument is that it is educational and people actually understand “How to do it “. But it once again tracks me back to the same argument. How did people in sixties and seventies “did it” without knowing how to “do it”. Moreover, I think it makes our lives more boring. Porn is turning us into a slave of obviousness. I mean that there is a difference between entering the room with a “thrill of experimentation” and with a “feeling of obviousness”. I truly envy the people who lived three decades ago. So, as you see there, porn is not a necessity.

The Big Argument: The best argument I have heard is, “Who cares about logic, we just love to watch porn.” Now, I respect individuality and individual choices about how we feel about different things. But, our choices should not come at the expense of other people’s suffering. Before you think that I sound foolish, let me give you this story which I had once read in Al-Jazeera as an example. “Fatima was a girl born in Kenya who was sold into slavery as their parents couldn’t afford to raise her. She was moved to Riyadh where she worked for an affluent family who apparently fed her little and took no good care of her. When she reached a certain age, she was sold to a person in London who happens to be a friend of the affluent family where she turned herself into a porn actress.”
I appreciate Fatima’s boldness because she wanted to survive and move on with her life. But, was it a decision made of choice or was it a terrible destiny which she had to face as a consequence of living in a terrible society. When we watch a porn video, there is a good probability that we are watching someone like Fatima who is trying to manipulate her feelings and expressions just to survive. I am not telling you that I had never watched porn. I mean who I am kidding here. But when I knew that I was indirectly creating a market for people who make videos which was in turn creating a need for actresses to be smuggled into the industry, someone like Fatima, it wasn’t the same thing again.

The Final Nail: Now, I know that many of you would argue that not every porn actress is like Fatima, right? I mean in the west pornography is seen as a profession and there are even awards for best actors and actresses. But like all the other things in the universe beauty fades away. The only difference is that it fades away relatively too quick. So, the actresses who made their choice of becoming a porn star soon realize that are in a position, say mid-forty, when there is no demand left for them. Did we ever come across a porn actress, who had children in her entire life, I mean even if she did, can you imagine the impact of her profession that falls on her children. I really respect them for the sacrifices which they make but I also hate us for making them to sacrifice for our selfish purposes.

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